Why is there a stigma associated to online dating?

I did it and met my fiancee, who's the greatest. But I tell some people to try it when they complain about being single, and they look at me like I'm crazy... a "Do you think I'm that desperate?" look.





I dated in the "real" world for 6 years, and I had mixed success at best. There were ups and downs online too, but generally, the people I met off there wanted to be in a relationship, whereas some of people I met before just wanted to get free dinners or hook up short term.





So why is going online a sign of desperation? It seems to me it's just another form of matchmaking, which has been around for thousands of years.

Why is there a stigma associated to online dating?
I don't think its desperate at all but alot of my friends do and I dont think thats right cuz I'm with you ive met some people online that were really nice as compared to people you meet in "real" life who can be obnoxious and just arrogant.But I think the reason why people think its "desperate" is beacause everybody is used to following the same old rituals for long periods of time (meeting people in person first).People need to learn how to be open minded and respect peoples choices.goodluck with your fiancee!
Reply:On-line matchmaking has been around for a thousand years? Maybe you said that wrong. I agree with you though, its just another way, but from my personal experience its just as bad as the real life situations now. Back when the Internet was young I think it was a lot different. Anyone I met on-line I know would be a kind of computer "dork" and I liked that. They were more likely to be like me. But now that everyone and their mothers do it, its getting ridiculous. Its just like the bar scene. My attractive female friend puts up an ad and she gets swamped with horny losers trying to show her pictures of their penis. Point is, no matter on-line or off, the dating game is just that, a game.
Reply:Because many people have not had much experience with the internet and as many people do when they dont know much about something they fear it. Plus alot of them think alls you do is read about what someone writes in an article then meet up. they forget they can talk to them and webcam with them and talk to them on the phone first. people say weirdos can find you.. well there are even more weirdos that can go to bars and say hello to you to or walk down the streets. plus if anyone says to meet up in some isolated place by yourself you dont have to go u can say no.





ignorance produces fear and fear produces scorn.





in years to come it will become less uncommon. especially because right now alot of older people havnt had the internet throughout there life and dont know anything about it and if someone asks they act like its evil.
Reply:Is the stigma from meeting online, or falling in love online? Internet dating isn't my style, but my mother and sister have both done it. I've no objections to my sister's situation because she actually met the guy face to face before starting a relationship. My mother, on the other hand, bored us to tears about what he did or didn't say and was totally in love for 2 years before they met. Anyway, she moved with him to the opposite side of the country and is happy, or at least thinks she is.


I personally think that if you want an intellectual partner, look for them in an educational setting. If you are happy with a partner who has nothing better to do than sit on the internet, then the internet is a good place to meet someone. Both my mother and sister were in that position themselves when they hooked up with their internet dates.


(Yeah I know, I'm sitting on the net atm. But my daughter had me up every hour last night, so despite having better things to do, I'm too damn tired to do them!)
Reply:I guess it's because there is a sort of "nerdy" or "social outcast" cloud that lurks over the computer "geeks" of the world. It's like you can't meet someone in person so you have to do it on line. I think as more time passes this stigma will disappear or at least not be as taboo.
Reply:Cause it's easy to kill someone if you meet them alone somewhere.


My thought, anyway, though obviously I had never been killed from an online date.
Reply:I agree. I don't have time for speed dating or week after week trying to get men to really talk. I don't drink, so clubs and bars are out. Who's kidding anyway? Those are pick-up places but not where you'll find a marriage-able person. Maost likely people who are already married and looking to cheat. I think it is more likely a lady will die from a date at a bar than someone you meet online. Why? If you date online, you can get a complete background check before ever agree to meet the other person! That is a huge benefit to online dating. I want to be treated as a person, not a piece of meat so I prefer online dating only. Know my mind, before you see my body, OK?





I don't have time to date. On line with email and chat works better for me know. I work from home, attend school from home and don't meet tons of people...With online dating, you can meet for the first time in a public place, so why worry about getting killed? Just don't go home on the first date, or go without telling other people where you meet and where you are going. Use your cellphone when you go to a new place, take a photo of car and license places in secret. That type of thing ensures basic safety issues...





Congratulations and good luck! Me? I would rather marry someone from an online dating site.
Reply:As long as you are comfortable with it who cares!
Reply:I totally support it I met my dear husband online and that was 10 years ago, now we are extremely happy and have two children, so I think is good, just as normal dating you have to keep your guard up and use your instincts trust as much as you need and not at the beginning
Reply:nothing wrong with it....personally i can get woman easy enough...but when im old and unable to pull chicks im just gonna go to thailand and buy a woman...easy life
Reply:I meet my fiance on yahoo and I don't think there nothing wrong with it I sure think its better then the bar scenes and anyway what ever work for each person is what matter