What are men so intimidated by strong, independent, and confidant women?

I don't get these guys who go on and on about confidence and independence being so attractive in a woman, but then the second they realize I am one of those woman, they hit the floor running.





Why wouldn't a man want to be with a woman who doesn't spend all his money? Are they really happier with needy, whiney, emotionally underdeveloped women who are totally incapable of taking care of them selves? Is it some kind of male "provider" instinct?





Don’t get me wrong, I’m no butch, man-hating, chick; my one truest dream is to be a wife and stay at home mother some day. But that doesn’t mean I have to be a helpless “little woman”, that I have to give up who I am or everything I have worked for?





MEN AND WOMEN please give me your opinions. I’m loosing hope. I'm going to end up like one of those cat ladies, arguing with Binkers because he got paw prints on the rug and taking Chico to a kitty matchmaking service. (I don’t actually have those cats, but you get the point.)

What are men so intimidated by strong, independent, and confidant women?
I don't think they are intimidated. Some men need to have the power. Some men need to be the provider. I'm strong and independent also very confidant in myself. I have a boyfriend that loves me. He is not intimidated but he does respect me.





Try to take it down a notch. Don't change who you are but work with what you have. Men do love a confidant women. The right guy will come along you just have to wait.
Reply:The main reason for them acting that way is because when they look at them self in the mirror, they do not like what they see or the size of it. In reality we are suppose by society standards to be the one standing behind the man but without taking the sun away from him. I tell you what doe, there are a lot of man out there that will kill for a woman like us and be content with the fact that at one point in time if they wish it, they can be Mr my woman man. Been independent is all about power, and it is also the one thing that men most want. Lets face it,,,,,,,we will have to continue been who we are, not expecting a recognition for it, but to just be plain happy about it. In my case I am and will always be in control of what I want and nothing less. By the way I have 7 cats,,,,,,very happy cats, and a toy.lololololol
Reply:First off, I am a woman without a job and I am completely dependent upon my spouse for everything. Does that make me a "whiny" "little woman" am I emotionally underdeveloped and needy?? No, I am a mother-





Guys have to feel needed and why would a guy who wants to feel needed want to be with a woman who is totally independent and write stuff like this?? It is a "provider" instinct. That's what a large percent of men want to be is the provider.





There are a lot of relationships where the tables are turned, but that's what works for them. You will find a guy who will be able to love and handle everything you are and have to offer...just be patient...





Kinda like that song..."Looking for love in all the wrong places..."





What I am getting at is to be patient....there is definitely someone who wants you...whats meant to be will be and it will happen when its time. You will see.
Reply:I don't know who you're meeting. Most men I know want a woman who makes more money than they do!
Reply:I think it's because they need to feel like they are in control. Don't change for them though. Just adopt a cat and you'll be happy. lol!! :) Good luck!!
Reply:there's nothing wrong with having a kitty:) That's bs.


Just don't ACT "cat lady"-like.





Look, you can bee a strong, independent, confident woman. Guys do like that. They like (from my experience) to know they're not the center of your universe and you can do without them, when they need their "man time." They also like their woman pretty, educated and looking good when she's introduced to his family (able to carry conversation, sound intelligent, shine).





So imo, that's not the issue. The issue is how you choose to display this confidence and independence. Do you compromise? Do you LISTEN to HIS needs/ Do you really? Are you letting a guy become close to you, become your friend? Are you confy with looking like a fool from time to time..I think it's very hard for a guy to see a girl that's ALWAYS trying to be perfect and control every situation. I thnk they're not afraid of independence and confidence..they're afraid of someone who just can't have fun, let loose, relax, play, be sassy, just be human....They like to know their partner is very human and warm, not emotional or clingy. Just warm and close.





my thoughts..
Reply:I love strong, independent women, and I find those qualities very attractive in a woman.
Reply:You will be ok.......you just need to find a man who values YOU. Some of the men you speak of....feel this way because maybe that is what they are uist to. Also some men may feel "traditional" about a relationship. Most women now days seek more for themselves and their lives. Find someone who respects who and what you stand for.....ohhh and stay away from the cats!


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