I don't get respect from my fiance..........?

I would like a few opinions on what this means.......I am engaged and supposed to be getting married in July to a woman I have been w/for 4 years and fathered 2 wonderful children with. Recently I found an online conv. between my fiance and the babysitter in which the babysitter was trying to convince my fiance to go behind my back, leave me, take my kids and move in with her b'cus she wanted to leave her boyfriend and she said that I didn't treat my fiance right and that god had someone else for her in mind (thats right, now god does matchmaking!?!?) when I read this I quickly proceeded to fire the babysitter and give her a piece of my mind,basically my fiance took the babysitters side and sympathized w/her, and for all my trouble I was called an ******** and a bbastard by my fiance, I thought I was defending my family and my household, but apparently my fiance doesn't think so, I think she has no respect for me at all, what are your thoughts, anyone have a different pt. of view??

I don't get respect from my fiance..........?
"sympathized w/her" is the part I'm missing her, what exactly you mean by this is going to change alot what kind of opioin one can say. We don't have her response during the conversation. Did she encourge the babysister, if so something big is going on in your relationship. Was it just curiousity? What more is their about this babysister that made her feel that you were so bad for her? Were you? Its possiable maybe your an ahole and she was looking for a way out, could be she's a witch doing whatever she wants. Might just be your wife tring to develop some sort of relationship with someone and not being the brightest at picking friends... The real truth is proubly a long history with each other thats got all kinds of differnent issues coming together that you guys have neglect'd to resolve. And its nothing that little conversation can't fix. The god comment thou was real funny and hints to the fact that there was something terrible wrong with the darn babysitter anyways, and thats why your wifes sympathization brings a lot ???? to mind...