Should I give up trying to meet women?

I've been in a number of speed dating events (if you don't know what those are, look it up), tried a lot of online personals/matchmaking, and a few blind/double dates, and not good at approaching women in general. (I realize I am opening the door here for people to mock me or call me a loser!)

Should I give up trying to meet women?
first of all you are not a loser!!!! you just haven


't met the right one yet --don't give up --if the words don't come out when you are in front of them that is because the chemistry is not there with that person--when you meet the right one words are going to flow out of your mouth so naturally---you will be okay!!!
Reply:what is the relevance of your question "Should I give up trying to meet women" in relation to speed dating?
Reply:It's pretty obvious that kind of dating isn't working for you. Ask your friends to introduce you to people they know. Try joining club and events where you can meet women with similar interests to yours.





You also need to stop focusing on your dating. You need to just be happy with yourself, then you are ready to find a relationship. Women hate desparate men.
Reply:Be careful, women hate desperation. Try doing things that a lot of other people are doing, group events and things. See how things go. If you find someone with a mutual interest and start by being friends then it is a lot easier. Avoid speed dating and other contrived high pressure events. It is unlikely that the woman you are looking for ( from the sound of you question) will be comfortable there either.
Reply:son, when you're not looking that's when it'll happen. sound corny, but it's true. in the mean time, just do things for yourself. go out and have fun.
Reply:You are not a loser at all! I truly don't believe you should give up, ever. I think you may need to look at yourself in a little diffrent way. It seems as though you are giving up, asking if you should give up, and thinking that people would want to call you such a name! Don't give up on love, or yourself. You need to meet a woman in a more natural environment. I don't think speed or online dating is a good way to meet, at least not for me, and obviously not for you. I'm pretty old fashioned, so that will influence my answer, but you may get an idea from my advice, that is completly diffrent what what I meant! Love comes in the strangest places. I know this sounds very cliche-ish, but the mall is a pretty great place to meet people. If you shop at the same store, maybe once a week, you'll get to know the people there. Strike up a conversation with the pretty woman at the estee lauder counter! Or the woman who works at home depot. A good way to meet people is through others. Usually when a friend tells you "you have to meet this person, she's single too", it's not a good match! Go out with friends, and friedns of friends, and meet someone on your own. You never know until you try, which I'm sure you have, but keep going! You'll find her, I wish you much luck, and may God bless you.
Reply:Man, NEVER EVER EVER EVER give up on trying to meet new women, NEVER
Reply:The hell what others think, you will find your special someone, don't give up, but stop trying so hard, its when your not looking or trying the your other half comes to you.
Reply:i wouldnt call ya a loser u sound sweet. youll meet that right person someday
Reply:your not a loser your just looking for the right woman nothing is wrong with that I am sure your sweet and kind and IF your a really good soul any woman would be lucky to have you heck I`d date you be sweet and dont give up beautiful!
Reply:It's when you not looking that you will find someone. Just keep a good attitude, and work on your skills to approaching women. Maybe a woman will approach you. It's not easy, just hang in there!
Reply:1. It sounds like you're looking desperately for someone. Stop it! Girls smell desperation a mile away and it's as guaranteed a turn-off as if you had just swam in a sewer (probably worse).





2. Ask yourself why do you want someone? It sounds like a trick question, but it isn't. You're responsible for your own happiness -- finding someone isn't going to give it to you. They can make your life happier, but not happy.





3. Try to improve other aspects of your life. Take a course. Go work out. Volunteer. Join a team. It's when you're no longer looking that you'll relax enough to let others see the real you and that is far more intriguing to women.





Good luck!
Reply:Anyone that would call you a loser is a loser themselves. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person. Just because you have been trying for awhile doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, you may just have higher standards than the ones you are dating. Quit looking in the places you stated you have been. Go to a church social, you can go to a nightclub and find some nice women, you know what you are looking for. Being shy isn't a bad thing necessarily with women. Just be yourself and you'll find that right one eventually. Good luck
Reply:it is okay...you just think you are not good at aproaching women, but you haven't met "the one" yet soo when you meet her it will be easy! good luck...and don't be scared to approach them...and speed dating usually don't work out anyways...so don't worry!
Reply:Maybe you should give up, just for now anyway. You know what they say, its when you stop looking that you find what you were looking for. Maybe right now is just not the right time. Your not a loser....there just isn't much to choose from out there.
Reply:Perhaps you are trying too hard. Maybe spend more energy in enjoying being by yourself and do things that fulfill you, but they have to be more public oriented things.





example, if you like jazz, don't buy a jazz cd...go to a jazz cafe. If you like art, don't buy a painting, go to an art class.





When you are fulfilling your own personal needs, you become, on the whole, a happier person, and such a person is more approachable and more attractive than someone who's going on blind/speed dates as a last resort to meet someone.
Reply:If you give up - you will never find what you're looking for. If you persevere - you will find her in due time.
Reply:No. Just cos it hadn't work doesn't mean it won't work forever. Or try chatting up someone at the supermarket, etc. You never know.
Reply:No. Don't give up meeting women. We are more delicious than sliced bread with jam and fresh cream.


Just be patient - she is waiting for you.


Connection will be made soon.
Reply:Stop looking so hard.
Reply:dude, maybe you shouldn't be taking it too seriously, in not finding the right girl for you...you just have to wait,she'll come in the perfect package right for you.don't force yourself into dating girls just to find if you really match.you'll meet her when you least expect it...just believe...
Reply:no u don't.everybody got a same chance so good luck and all the best to u :)
Reply:well blind dating is the like ..worst idea ever .. i think you should just go on with your life and the right woman will come along .. yo can't just give up.. then what? you'll live alone foever? you should keep on going with your daily life ..she'l come along .. there somebody for everyone! Good luck!
Reply:Don't give up on girls! Love will come when you least expect it!!!
Reply:you need to build your confidence and work at approaching women.
Reply:not unless ur gay